8 Comment on the audio clips: Care relationships
8.1 Feelings about care relationships
Diane couldn't imagine being paid for what she did. She thought that, if she was paid, she would, ‘have felt obligated to do it’. This way it felt like her choice. ‘I wanted to make those choices freely.’
John described the basis of his caring for Mr Asghar as, ‘a mutually beneficial friendship … always has been’.
Enid emphasised that she looked on her caring as a parental responsibility. ‘They're my children and it's my duty to look after them … they weren't asked to be born.’
Sarah spoke about being a care recipient, and wondered if everything that people did for her was care at all, and if, by calling it care, it made her sound more dependent, ‘as if, in a way, you need more help than you do’.
Alex tried to keep the care she received down to a minimum. She wanted to be in charge and said, ‘I don't want a lot more care. I don't want to feel that there are carers always here, otherwise it feels too much “old lady” for me’.