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2.1 Sorting good feedback from bad

Now you will think about how you would deliver certain types of feedback to others.

Activity 2 What makes good and bad feedback?

Timing: Allow about 10 minutes

Have a look at the sentences in the box below. Each is a way in which you could deliver feedback to someone. Go through the sentences and type Yes next to the ones which you feel would be acceptable feedback (not necessarily perfect, but OK).

Next look at the sentences which you did not write Yes next to. What could you add to this sentence to make it more acceptable to the person on the receiving end? Record your thoughts next to the statement.

Table 2 Good and bad feedback
StatementAcceptable?
  1. I’m really unhappy about what you just told me about my contribution to the meeting.
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  1. Now I don’t want you to get upset by what I am going to say, but…
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  1. When you interrupt me like that, it makes me want to stop talking to you.
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  1. You’re really overreacting to what I just said…
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  1. It really doesn’t matter to me, but a lot of people would be really upset by what you just did.
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  1. Your problem is that you just don’t like yourself.
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  1. I have something to say to you and I am going to tell you for your own good.
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  1. When you continue to hum like that, even after I have just said that I am struggling to hear what the speaker is talking about, I get frustrated and want to go and sit somewhere else.
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  1. You’ve just offended everyone in this group.
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  1. You appear to be frowning and I am confused about what just happened.
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  1. From the way you alienate people you must be really angry with the world.
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  1. I could work with you more easily if you had a better sense of humour.
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  1. Why do you do things like that?
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  1. Do you understand what I mean when I say you are sending me a double message?
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  1. Violet, how do you feel when Jake arrives late for the meeting?
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  1. I’m going to be open with you and level with you. I really think you’re an idiot.
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  1. I wish you would just stop trying to run everything round here.
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  1. How do you think it makes me feel when you say things like that?
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  1. That kind of childish behaviour won’t get you anywhere round here.
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  1. And another thing, I am really sick and tired of you calling me ‘Love’.
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Discussion

You may have found some of these much easier to decide to say Yes to than others in this list. While part of this can be down to personal judgement it can also depend in part on how the words are delivered – for example the tone of voice used and the situation.

The key thing here is to take time to reflect what a good feedback comment might look like and review how you would like feedback to be delivered if you were on the receiving end.

When providing feedback ask yourself whether you have:

  • prioritised your ideas and limited your feedback to the most important issues
  • considered the value of the feedback you are giving to the receiver
  • considered how you would respond to the feedback if it was given to you
  • provided an overwhelming amount of feedback in one go
  • considered if you would know how to act or what to do next if you were the one on the receiving end.

Next you will look at what to do if conflict arises.