Good practice in setting positive rather than negative goals

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NARRATOR
In this video showing good practice in goal setting, we see a coach dealing effectively with a goal that is negative.
COACH
Tim, so we've got a relatively short session today, and I'm wondering what it is you'd like to focus on.
CLIENT [COACHEE]
So what I'd like to focus on is, I need to stop arguing with a colleague in my team.
COACH
OK. You want to stop arguing with a colleague.
CLIENT
Exactly. Yeah. Yeah.
COACH
So if we were to focus on what you want instead of arguing, what would that be?
CLIENT
Mm. Well, what I'd like is to have a good working relationship with that colleague.
COACH
OK.
CLIENT
We used to have a pretty good working relationship, so I'd like to have that with them.
COACH
So we're focusing on improving or getting to a good working relationship with your colleague.
CLIENT
Exactly.
COACH
And what does that mean you need to get from the session specifically?
CLIENT
So, for whatever reasons, we've got to a point where we're no longer communicating properly. And everything I seem to say to them, they've taken the wrong way, and I think, maybe, vice versa.
COACH
OK.
CLIENT
So what can I do to reverse that?
COACH
So it sounds like you're aware that the things that you've tried so far haven't been particularly successful.
CLIENT
Yeah.
COACH
And now you're looking to find ways of improving and reversing that trend in the relationship.
CLIENT
Yeah, exactly. Exactly.
COACH
So if you got really specific, Tim, what do you need to take away?
CLIENT
So what I need to understand is – I want to broach it with them, and it's how am I going to do that.
COACH
OK. So we're really looking, in this part of the coaching anyway, at how you're going to broach this with them and how you handle it.
CLIENT
Exactly. Yeah. What do I say to them?
COACH
What do I say to them?
CLIENT
Yeah.
COACH
OK.

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