3.6 What does it feel like? Coping with conflicting roles
Apart from practical considerations, there are emotional issues that you will need to think about with regard to returning to work. If you live with other people – especially a partner or children – what do they think about your plan to go back to work? How will it affect them? Will they have to take on additional responsibilities at home or organising daily life? How do they feel about this? What will others in your extended family think? There is also the consideration of other roles you have had while you haven’t been in paid work. Are you able to make a transition away from this if you need to?
Mothers, in particular, can feel others are critical of their decision to return to work. However, attitudes towards ‘working mothers’ have changed as the numbers of women with children also doing paid work have increased in recent years.
That said, you may still encounter criticism from others and most people have feelings of guilt or conflict about their changing role.
Activity 8 The impact of conflicting roles
Now make notes about how you feel about your return to work. What would your preferred work pattern involve for others who depend on you? How will you and they prepare to cope with the changes ahead?
Now listen to how Azu, who talks about coping with guilt when juggling conflicting priorities.