3.1 Developing self-esteem
In Week 2, when looking at resilient children, adults and resilience coaching, you saw that resilient behaviour can be learned and developed. It’s the same for self-esteem. Moving towards our goals in small ways can make a big difference to how we feel about ourselves.
Activity 4 Developing self-esteem
You met Rebecca Fielding, Managing Director at Gradconsult, and a highly experienced leader on recruitment and talent management for some of the UK’s biggest names, in Week 3, Activity 4. In the following video, she speaks about how highly resilient people behave when things go wrong, and on boosting her self-esteem.
Watch the video and note down:
- a.what tactics Rebecca Fielding sees highly resilient people using when things go wrong
- b.what concrete suggestions she gives to help develop resilience
- c.which examples of positive and negative self-talk she gives
- d.when she takes a moment to recap on the day.
Transcript: What to do when things go wrong
- a.Rebecca Fielding observes highly resilient people recognising when things have gone wrong, learning from it, and then letting it go and moving on. She sees them continually trying new things and accepting that failure will be part of the picture. They are willing to forgive themselves, and demonstrate ‘bounceback-ability’.
- b.Rebecca advises giving yourself a chance to reflect, learn and be aware of your own self-talk. What are you telling yourself about your abilities, your experience and confidence as you enter into new situations?
- c.Positive self-talk includes: ‘I’m feeling good about this, I’m going to give it my best shot, I believe I can do this. Although there might be things that will go wrong, I can learn from them.’ Alternatively, negative self-talk includes: ‘I don’t deserve to be here. I’m going to be found out. I’m going to fail.’
- d.Rebecca takes a moment at the end of every day as she drives home to notice the stories she tells herself and the choices she is making. She asks herself:
- What did I do well?
- What didn’t go so well?
- What can I do better tomorrow?