3.2 Keeping your self-esteem high
If you are going through times of transition, a difficult relationship, or your first weeks as a line manager, it can be hard to keep self-esteem high. Take five minutes to look through these tips from Mind (2015) and consider what you do – or could do more of – to remind yourself of more positive beliefs about yourself.
- Do activities that you enjoy.
- Spend time with positive, supportive people.
- Keep a notebook of positive comments people make to you.
- Take photos of the work you are proud of, or the meal, DIY job or fancy dress costume that turned out well. One new mother wrote all her professional achievements on a t-shirt which she wore when sleepless nights and a new baby were overwhelming her sense of self.
- Be helpful and considerate to others.
- Try not to compare yourself to other people.
- Try to do regular exercise, eat healthily and get enough sleep.
- Be assertive – don’t let people treat you with a lack of respect.
- Use self-help books and websites to develop helpful skills such as assertiveness or mindfulness.
- Learn to challenge your negative beliefs.
- Acknowledge your positive qualities and things you are good at.
- Get into the habit of thinking and saying positive things about yourself.
Bear in mind, too, that you don’t have to do this alone. Counsellors can help unpick where you are being harsh on yourself – your GP surgery can give referrals.
Which of these tips might make the biggest difference for you? How could you build it in so it becomes part of your routine, like Rebecca Fielding does on her drive home?