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Assisted dying or non-assisted living?

Updated Monday, 2nd November 2015

Parliament recently voted against the 'right to die'. Rachel Webb gives a personal account outlining why this could have been the wrong decision...

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Assisted dying illustration showing paliament with a ill person's hand - society matters illustration Copyrighted  image Icon Copyright: Artwork by Gary Edwards © The Open University As the dust precariously settles on the parliamentary vote in September that rejected the “right to die,” I shake my head at the polarised debate that missed a trick. What we need is not the ability to hasten death, but a universal, intelligent and humane system that does not prolong a life of suffering. When Mother Nature says it’s time to go, we should be able to choose whether to acquiesce or rebel, whether to accept the inevitable or fight for one last hurrah. It might be that the legislation is already in place to allow this, but anecdotal evidence suggests it is, in practice, a grey area that serves no one well.

I have one anecdote of my own. My elderly dad was not in the best of health. For over a year he’d “had enough,” but we – my mother, siblings and I – cared for him and jollied him along as best we could. When his blood pressure and pulse suddenly plummeted, he was admitted to the local A&E where complete heart block was diagnosed. The solution, we were told, was a pacemaker. Knowing that any procedure, even a short hospital stay, would distress Dad, I asked if there was an alternative treatment including a do-nothing option. Nope. Everyone from the junior doctor to the consultant insisted that Dad needed a pacemaker; without it he could suffer for months; there was no choice.

So after a weekend in the local hospital (the NHS is not fully 24/7) my confused and upset Dad was taken on an hour-plus ambulance journey to a specialist heart unit (Mum and I made our own way there). The surgeon thoroughly assessed Dad then took Mum and me to one side and asked us quietly, “Do you want to go ahead?”

It was June 24th, my niece’s third birthday, Mum and Dad’s only granddaughter.  Could Mum cope with, in effect, pulling the plug on Dad on what should be a celebratory day, forever to be tarnished? Coupled with the fact it had to be a quick decision – the surgeon practically had the scalpel in his hand – we said yes of course we did want to go ahead.

The insertion of the pacemaker was a medical success but a personal tragedy for Dad. He endured two more years of pain, confusion, immobility, indignity and misery, until he contracted complex dysphagia and stopped trying to eat or drink. In the meantime, Mum’s health suffered because of the physical and emotional strain; she was bed-ridden and almost hospitalised. It also affected my sister’s health because she had to suddenly care for both parents until I could return early from holiday to take some of the strain.

Dad’s final stay in his local hospital showed that the medical profession’s attitude had changed only a little regarding conversations about withholding life-prolonging treatment. Last time they were dismissive; this time they were embarrassed. The only advice they volunteered was that keeping him on a drip was “… not a long-term solution…” the “tion” resonating like a bad bout of tinnitus. The rest of the necessary information I extracted through careful questioning worthy of an experienced barrister. As a result, Dad came home – on his 88th birthday – with a package of care and pain relief, which is what should have happened two years previously.

This was not assisted dying but non-assisted living. His death was not artificially hastened, neither was his life artificially prolonged. Current legislation allowed this for Dad’s particular circumstances. Would it be allowed for others? It is this question that right-to-die campaigners and MPs should be asking.

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