The nature of royal weddings as very public declarations of love can cause us to reflect on love and partnership – and on 29th April 2011 when Prince William and Kate Middleton tied the knot, the royal couple took a vow that declared a commitment to love and cherish ‘til death do us part’. But what is ‘love’? What is it that makes us fall in love with someone and can we put a meaning on it? We’ve all experienced love, whether it is a friend, partner, family member, or a pet – but these are all very different kinds of love. So how do we define love when it encompasses such a variety of emotions? Carolyn Price, senior lecturer in Philosophy, and Timothy Chappell, director of the Ethics Centre, at The Open University, discuss the nature of love, from love as a function, to ‘the Doppelganger problem’ – should we also love another person with the same traits and qualities as the person we already love? Finally, the notion of love as a duty within marriage is explored.
Track 2: What is love?
What are the reasons we love one person rather than another, and can love be unjustified?
Very interesting about how both Caroline and Timothy recognise the idea of love being not just an emotion but also a mixture of choice and action. I enjoyed the Kate Middleton doppelganger section especially - another person may have similar, or the same, qualities of someone you've chosen to love, but it is not easy to 'drop' the investment and actions you've already taken to get to know someone with true depth.
Ultimately, I think love is risky. It is important to understand that all human beings are flawed, and it is often a case of realising this and still choosing to stick together in a partnership and growing together which leads to the feeling of security in relationships or marriage. Especially with social media in this 21st century, we seem to have the illusion of 'unlimited options' which often leads to relationship breakdowns. Wouldn't you rather invest in the growth and happiness of one person who already holds the qualities you value - with flaws, of course - than search for this "already completed" person with no red flags, who most likely only exists in your mind due to societal conditioning via romantic movies, social media relationship exposure and poetry?
Enjoyed listening to this podcast on love and marriage by Carolyn Price and Timothy Chappell. Some interesting thoughts discussed. I am drawn to Iris Murdoch's idea of love as a kind of "attention" we give someone. We have a kind of "attachment" to them, do we not, mentally, perhaps even sometimes a certain dependence on each other, inevitably. Though dependence is arguably not a healthy type of love, if it is love at all.
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Ultimately, I think love is risky. It is important to understand that all human beings are flawed, and it is often a case of realising this and still choosing to stick together in a partnership and growing together which leads to the feeling of security in relationships or marriage. Especially with social media in this 21st century, we seem to have the illusion of 'unlimited options' which often leads to relationship breakdowns. Wouldn't you rather invest in the growth and happiness of one person who already holds the qualities you value - with flaws, of course - than search for this "already completed" person with no red flags, who most likely only exists in your mind due to societal conditioning via romantic movies, social media relationship exposure and poetry?